Self-esteem is defined as how we value and perceive ourselves, based on our opinions and beliefs. These opinions and beliefs can be based on our own thoughts, things that happen to us, things that people say to us, and lots of other influences. Self-esteem is essential for our overall well-being and personal success.

Here are some ideas for improving your self-esteem:

• Try affirmations - positive affirmations are positively loaded phrases or statements that challenge unhelpful or negative thoughts. Telling ourselves that we’re valued, that we will think positively and that we’re worthy of love, support and friendship can help to embed these ideas in our mind and we will replace those negative thought patterns with these positive messages. This can have a really beneficial effect and help to change our feelings about ourselves.  
• Do new things – learn a new language or skill, volunteer for something, build your confidence. If you volunteer, the good feeling you’ll get from helping other people will help you too. 
• Set realistic goals – if you have a big challenge, do it in small steps. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small.
• Self-care is important – eat, sleep, look after yourself properly. Care for yourself because you’re worth caring for.  
• Try to move regularly. Physical activity of any type is good for you. As well as being beneficial for your physical health, it generates endorphins which make you feel good and boost your mood.  
• Acknowledge the good things – if you think about the things you’re grateful for, you don’t have time to think about any of the bad stuff. Reminding yourself on a regular basis that there are good things in your life can really help. Even the smallest of things can boost your mood. 
• Try to avoid comparing yourself to other people. There’s an old saying – ‘Don’t compare your inside to other people’s outsides’. It’s true. Someone who looks self-confident and happy might be really struggling, they might look like that because they’re hiding their feelings.
• Be kind to yourself. When you don’t feel you’re at your best, try self-compassion – talk to yourself as if you’re talking to a friend. If a friend told you that their self-esteem was low, what would you say to them?  

If someone you know is negative and discouraging, or disparaging toward you, and you feel your self-esteem is lower after spending time with them, then try to avoid them. Think about the people you spend time with – are they radiators or drains? Do they radiate warmth and care, or do they drain you of emotional energy and leave you exhausted?  

Remember – it takes time.   If your self-esteem has been low for a while, it’ll take time to build it back up. Those small steps are worth taking.     

Reach out and ask for help. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, connect with other people who can help you. Our Counselling team are here to help – they will listen to you and recommend strategies to boost and maintain your self-esteem.